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Well, I just wrote you a book and somehow this posting didn't POST! So I'll do my best to respond again to what you've written above.
My sister in law, S, was in a situation somewhat like yours only she was in high school. The father of her child was an alcoholic...still is...and didn't want the baby. They tried to make things work and well, they both ended up going their separate ways. It was not easy for her to be a single mom, but she did it! She was not labeled as "undateable", in fact she did quite well in that area. The only thing she changed with her dating was the type of guy she dated. She put into priority, whether or not the man she was dating wanting children. Whereas sometimes, that's not the first thing couples discuss and later they find out that the other party is not so keen on children as they thought or hoped. Such as your situation above.
As far as the adoption option, I think it is also a wonderful option. All of the options you've presented above sound to be very wise options and not at all selfish. In fact, adoption I believe, is one of the most selfLESS things you can do for your child. It would be so hard to give that child to someone else, but doing it knowing that that's what is best for them is so generous and loving. That shows how much you really are NOT thinking of your own feelings!
My husband was adopted as an infant, after his parents were killed in an auto accident and I have a nephew that was recently adopted into our family as well. I have a little insight to some of the things you brought up here and if you'd like to talk to me more about it, please don't hesitate to write me, pm me, whatever!
God Bless you in your decision, keep you strong and keep the father from interfering in the happiness of your child.
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