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Hi all,
I have had many a discussion about the PW in the past. In the beginning, without reading the book, I scoffed at it and really disregarded what I had heard about the book. I really beleived that it was an attempt to patholize adopteesand took offense to that. I still haven't read the book, still don't want to be patholized, or made the victim.but I do acknowledge that we can not come out of being adopted without SOME questions, I even hesitate to use the word issues( i hate that word) for some there are no issues to being adopted, for some there are many issues.
For me I know growing up I really never felt abandoned or rejected and when others would talk about adoptees in that vein I was truly puzzled. I felt loved with my parents(but definetly didn't feel as good as my adoptive extended family), I did feel sad, often for no reason. I ALWAYS wondered about birthfamily.
Later in life I got angry, not at being adopted but everyones' elses feelings towards the adoptee was. What everyone in society's attitudes towards adoptees are. Those attitudes are as varied as the number of people that have the attiudes and most of them thought it was?is ok to let me know HOW it should be, or how I should feel! That got me thinking about PW and I agree I hate the word "wound" its to drastic in my case. But I do beleive SOMETHING happens when an infant is seperated from their mother, when a person is not brought up with biological family, when the most basic of information is illegel for us to obtain, when our quest of knowledge could be hurtful to SOMEONE...if we are not as senstive to everyone else in the equation as others feel we should be...and it goes on. I also feel that if in fact there is a "wound" that would can be healed.
I also don't like being defined by one or 2 books. Therre are many variables that make up a person and for me one of them happens to be that I was adopted. Born of one family brought up by another.
I like the gall bladder analogy...for some its a non healing supurtive wound, for others its a tiny paper cut.
Ok, think I can read the book now. I never did before because one...I am not a big fan of self help books as I think a lot of them are really just opinions of the writer. Everything needs to be taken with a grain of salt ...IMO. Don't even trust stats as I feel those can be maniputlated also. "@2..A peice of me was afraid I would identify too much and blow my little mind!!LOL. But I know I can read it with some objectivity.
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