[EZ2Luv]

I responded to the OP via PM because originally she had posted in an area where I could could not reply and I know she was looking for feedback.
I am copying exactly what I sent her through PM but after reading the responses I want to reiterate to Mamabear that it is NOT your resposnibilty nor your child's to provide YOUR baby to anyone wanting to be parents.
PAP's realize there is always a possibilty that the Emom will decide to parent. You are also not responsible for their reaction or heatbreak. First and foremost this is YOUR baby. I cannot emphasise this enough. I am sure the PAPs are wonderful in many cases and would make great parents ,but that does not mean that they must parent YOUR baby. If they are truly meant to be parents then God will she that the right baby finds them.
Below is my original PM


Maybe this is God's way of telling you to reconsider and keep your baby. Adoption is a permanant solution to temporary problems" Finances change and babies grow up. They don't stay little and super dependant forever. Please don't feel like you OWE these adoptive parents YOUR baby. I don't care how wonderful they are or how much you love them. This is YOUR baby. These adoptive parents will get over it. Your baby needs and knows you, not them. Whenever I read a post like yours I cannot help but think that God is speaking to your heart. In your case in the form of your sweet little girl.
I am an adoptee and I am by far in no way against adoption. It's just that adoption clearly is not for everyone. Please please listen to that small voice inside of you speaking on behalf of your unborn baby.I pray God continues to reveal His plan for you.

I also fully agree that no child should be meant to feel that sacrificing their own flesh and blood sibling is "gift" to a childless couple. I urge you ro take heed to Brenda's advise. This baby is your child's sibling and she too will have to live with the consequenses of giving up your baby too. These are LIFELONG.


EZ