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Old 09-10-2008, 12:17 PM
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I think this has turned out to be a really good discussion - thanks, everyone.

Adoption Ally, I appreciate your perspective.

shadow riderer, you are right on. I hate the idea of a "wounded" label being applied to me. I absolutely agree that there are losses in adoption (even if the gains are great). Obviously, for those of us from closed/sealed adoptions, those losses include knowing our bio families, knowing about our ancestry, who we are genetically, etc., etc. I would never deny those. But to me, to say I was "wounded" at the moment I was separated from my birth mother (and correct me if that's not what the book says), seems to paint me as a victim - something I do NOT want to be.
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