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My in-laws don't necessarily give unwanted "advice", but they have their comments which irritate the bejeebers out of me. For example: We are teaching K not to throw things in the house. J is only 5 months old and can't defend himself when something she throws comes winging at his head! MIL and SIL respond with "All kids throw things." Ummmm....not if you teach them not to! Or when we were feeding K instead of letting her feed herself in the first month after she was placed with us ... boy, did they give me disapproving looks when I said "We don't let her feed herself". I don't even bother trying to explain attachment to them or talk about establishing boundaries and structure anymore. They also don't understand MY child ... if I let her get away with something just because "company" is over ... man, I will pay for it 1000x later!

It ticks me off, but I always knew that my parenting style would be tons different from theirs. I vent to my DH and I vent to those I know will be sympathetic, but I just stick to my guns and do what I know is right for me and my family.