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I have not read Primal Wound either, but thought I might offer a little historical perspective.
Until books like this came out, it was never even considered that an adopted child could experience the kind of loss associated with a 'Primal Wound'. It was assumed that they would forget, and if it was never mentioned to them, they wouldn't even know they were adopted.
It was still the era of "if you love them enough, everything will be fine".
Then in the 90's the first major wave of international adoptees were reaching adolescence and all hell was breaking loose and no one knew why.
My son came home from Colombia in 1986 at 2 1/2. We didn't understand how extensive his losses were and didn't do much to help him through it. I can tell you that there is, to this day, an enormous hole in him that will never be filled.
I do think that it is much less of an issue now than it was then, and books like "Primal Wound" have a lot to do with it. We as AP's do so much more to compensate for these losses. Clearly we can't make them go totally away, but just being aware makes a huge difference.
So when reading books like this, I think it's important to remember the time and the context when they were written.
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