[Janeytwo]

Thanks you guys for answering my query. I have to admit I felt sort of stupid asking it in the first place but then I thought.....well....those that know me will surely love me........ LOL!

Anyhoo...

Stacy

I am not a birthfather, but I have two boys. They speak English too!

LOL! I loved this answer and thank you. And as you said I am hoping...no make that trying...not to worry too much. It is hard though. BTW, love your photo of the mini-greyhound. Is that the doggie that won the ugliest in the world contest?

Xdad

I think you may want to tone down the tears, and lovey dovey stuff until your son can figure out who you are. I know I would feel akward with all of that attention.

It's strange you know....I find that whenever I picture myself meeting my son & daughter for the first time, I see myself holding back...shaking hands and smiling but being quiet and letting them do the talking. But you are right and that is the thing....I do not want to be a blubbering fool. I imagine it would be embarassing for all of us and not at all a good start to anything.

still figuring out what I'll say to my daughter

I think from a woman's perspective - at least this woman's perspective - we are looking for reassurance that we are wanted and accepted. Women know the score I think, if you know what I mean. At least I would say that my daughter's understand the world and how relationships can lead to heartache and hard decisions. We just want to hear that we're important to the men in our life. If that's of any help.

BTW, I had meant to tell you that I read your answer in the prison thread. Don't be too hard on yourself okay? It's easy.....so easy.....to miss stuff that people write. I've done it. I did it to poor Thanksgiving Mom and felt just awful for days afterward; though being the gracious young woman she is she just laughed and said "no problem". Shoot and sometimes we respond from our hearts not our minds. I did that today. If you want a good laugh at me-Janey eating crow and my own words, check out the Birthmothers Support forum "RAge at Church" thread. Ooooo Boy!

As for your ex - divorce/breakups it's h**l and one h**l of a long journey back too. Go easy on yourself and be kind to you. I know, I know...there goes that goopedy goop woman talk again! LOL!

JustPeachy Ever-wise. You know, I always love to read your responses. You are right too. I have brothers. Lots of them. Shoot, how many times have me and my sisters all stood over an engine helping my brothers or ran saws or wood splitters with them? A lot I can tell you. Mama didn't raise no princesses! LOL! I don't know why it is that I can understand my brothers but not think I can talk to my son.

But then, my son has questions my brothers would never ask. Why would they, right? Sigh.......I am afraid....that's the thing. I am afraid.

I have no idea at all of how to be a mom

Well....I do know you're one heck of a guru! You're pretty darn good at that ya know!!

I'll be a blubbering emotional wreck (i.e. the "waterworks" will be on full force) and he will be like "OMG get her away from me!"[/

Yeah. Amen to that. I mean, I said above that I'd try to be an adult but will the years of pain come rushing back when I look in their eyes (if that ever happens - I'm beginning to wonder) :-(

I hope not Peachy. I hope not. I sure don't want to screw it up. I've screwed up enough already. :-(

Hugs to all you guys!

Janey