[mamabear457]

Well, here it goes its kinda complicated, but i'll give it my best shot. I'm a 22yr old med student trying to get finished with college and maintain my already very busy life. I have two years left and i cannot wait!!! I am also the mother of 3 beautiful kids!! First there is Z, he is 4 and a half my daugher M is 3 and a half and then baby K is about to turn 1!!! Here is the delema, I am again pregnant and i'm in the middle of an adoption plan. We have all met the adopting parents and we all really like them, in fact Z can't wait for then to come back!!!

now here is the hard part, z and m have the same dad and we are no longer together and haven't been since right before M's first birthday, K and this baby have the same father and we are currently going thru a custody battle that has actually gotten better thru the last few months, we are agreeing on custody and he has also met the adopting parents. Now I really really like these people that i have picked! they are absolutely perfect!! Here is my problem....
My daughter is so not ok with giving up her baby sister, ( we found out that it was a girl and she wanted to konw why THEY were buying her sister presents )and i'm not one to lie to my kids and this is the first question about Baby C. as of right now she's the only one who cares, she's stuck on keeping her sister or going home with the adopting couple altogether, Now, I don't want to lose my little girl forever and i'm afraid that she will hold this against me for the rest of our lives together.... and then there is K, what can i tell him about giving up his only blood sibling? Is this going to wreck their trust for me? What can i do to fix her especially, after all she is really goin gto be the one to remember this..... Please help any advice would be very helpful