[sgtfirstwife]

Aww do I know that feeling. I have three children, two adopted, one foster. My first daughter, we got almost nothing. There was a small, really small, shower at work. Some close friends did give me some gifts and my mother some wonderful gifts. So while I was grateful, after having gone to several other showers, I was a little surprised, but I have come to realiize that this is the way it is in the world of adoption.
Now I had a very close friend who also adopted. She went way over the top (in my opinion). Had a huge shower, top end furniture, expensive clothes and so on. It did not bother me. If she wants to go in debt, go for it. She is still doing this to this day. Buys tons of expensive clothes, toys ect. So now she is in debt, has to work, while I can stay at home and love my babies. We may not have the expensive clothes, but they have me here. The only thing I wish is that my inlaws were more supportive, but hey that is another story.