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Hi Janey.
I hope that my ex approaches me as old friends, as we were. We have talked about our past, as hard as it is. I think we are past the talking about the past, but it was very eye-opening. I have already gone through the "what if's", "why not's", and "how comes"...that was the hardest.
We had made a date for the 4 involved adults to meet for dinner, but have since cancelled, or postponed this meeting. It still is very strange. I now only have the most respect, and a deep love for my ex. I am going to counceling now to deal with some of the relationship issues, but most is clear to me. My big fear is the akward silence that may occur at the meeting, and the lingering "feelings" both good and bad. I have surrendered my "ego" and am ready for any conversation, and am pretty well prepared for disapointment...as well as joy.
As far as how to talk to your boy...no Idea, but I think you may want to tone down the tears, and lovey dovey stuff until your son can figure out who you are. I know I would feel akward with all of that attention. Everybody is different, every situation is different.
Good luck, still figuring out what I'll say to my daughter...I have raised no children.
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