Jennasmom1990
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I have put up with so much crap from her throughout my life it is crazy. She recently told me that the only reason she didn't want me to parent Jenna was because...The idea of her granddaughter being raised by total strangers didn't scare her as much as her losing the only care taker she had ever had. Hmmm...notice how I was her care taker...not the other way around?
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Banging my head on some mad 'so and so’s' wall..
She is wrong.. she even admits it.. she is not a good parent.. and those are the facts..
You grieving this may be the task at hand..
Accepting it.. walking by it..
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I am deeply hurt!!! I want to address this with her, but I know she won't allow me to. My daughter is terribly hurt, and wants nothing more to do with her grandmother. Here is what I need advice on...How do I tell my mom that I no longer wish to have a relationship with her, and not be hurt when she doesn't care?
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I think the way to do this is learning to love yourself.. and saying no..
Putting up those old boundaries.. those words that say.. “go this far but go no further”..
Not about cut off.. just saying no..
Its so hard.. I had a terrible time saying this to my mom because her drinking was all my fault.. ha..
And my dad would be miserable if I was not the good caretaker daughter..
All on me..
Accepting what we can not change..
Jackie