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Welcome Liz!
I tend to think of this as a 'cool people' thread, not a birth/first mother thread or an adoptee thread or a-parent thread or whatever. So welcome to the cool people ;-)
Anger ANGER whoo I've got that one good. I also am ok at forgiving (mostly) but letting go...not something I've learned.
Here's a lovely sentiment I got...when I was pregnant with one of my daughters (I think my youngest) my dear sweet lovely father said 'I hope it's a boy who makes your life difficult' (as in not sleeping etc etc). How nice is that? And here's the kicker...if I get UPSET! Well, c'mon, can't you take a joke?
Apparently the base of this is that I was a HORRIBLE baby who was never happy blah blah blah. Of course, how could I, an infant, be miserable on purpose? Did they ever stop to think that maybe the problem wasn't me the problem was how they were parenting? Maybe I needed more than to be thrown into a crib alone and told to sleep...maybe I needed to co-sleep.
Sorry, this just hit me yesterday when thinking about anger. :-)
Maybe I should bring it up the next time my dad says 'Oh and she was a terrible baby' I should say 'Hmm, maybe my needs weren't being met'
Wonder how that would go over? :-D
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