[awkmom]

We adopted our 4yo DS from Russia just over 2 years ago. It was a difficult adoption (8mo between trips, crazy paperwork) but we love him beyond words. Last October we started the process to adopt our 2nd child. Although we weren't thrilled about the possible 3 trips, costs, possible time between trips, we wanted a sibling with common heritage and so chose Russia again. We finally received a blind referral for a child a couple weeks ago. We were due to leave for trip 1 this past weekend and 20 min before our flight was to leave my DH had a panic attack and could not get on the plane.

We both want a 2nd child very much and we will obviously work to help DH manage his newfound fear of travel but am not sure if this is a realistic expectation or whether he should have to feel pressured to "fix" this in order for us to adopt from Russia. I'm feeling hopeless and sad right now about ever adopting a 2nd child.

In the event Russia does not eventually work out I'm investigating our non-travel options such as domestic, fost/adopt and adopting from Korea. Of course since we've been in this 2nd adoption for almost a year and had hoped to be home with a child fairly soon, the thought of starting over and waiting another 1-2 years is heartbreaking. Anyone else evaluating these options now or recently and any feedback on why and how you made your decision?

Thanks,
awkmom