[Tazer]

Hi Tim...welcome to the forum and congratulations on your upcoming reunion. I am a reunited B-mom having met my daughter almost 3 years ago next March. I can only imagine the thoughts that must be spinning around in your head today! I know every reunion is different but I want to share my $.02 worth from one who has been there done that, OK?

Like Iglys posted, take it slow. When you feel you're going slow enough slow it down more. Reunion is a marathon, not a sprint; don't try to cover everything the first day. IMO you should do as you would if your best friend from college called from out of state to say he has this wonderful friend visiting YOUR state that he'd like for you to pick up at the airport, meet and get to know. Perhaps he shares her name and a brief bio but not much else and you agree. Now you're at the airport and she has landed...what do you do? Do you rush up expecting instant love, perfect harmony, peace and to live happily ever after?

I know it's a stretch and before I'm blasted by other poster's I AM NOT COMPARING REUNION TO MEETING A NEW FRIEND, I am aware of the emotions involved, but in reality it needs to be handled a lot like this. Take things slowly. In my own reunion my daughter and I discovered we communicate better if we limit the "hard personal stuff" to e-mails as oppossed to f-2-f questioning. That way we can breathe, type, reveiw and edit, breathe, re-type, reveiw etc. as much as we need to without feeling "put on the spot." It works for us, but still it's not perfect or always good. However,we are committed to being friends and to remaining together forever.

Best wishes and good luck in the coming days. Please keep us updated and take care....Tracy