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Hi, I'm way out of my neighborhood but saw your post on "today's new."
First, unnderstand that when people explain why they are spending so much money, it is because they suspect or know they are going over the top or think you will think they are and are a little uncertain or embarrassed about it, hence, feel the need to explain themselves, lighten it up, make it OK. They are not judging or thinking about you or your choices, they are worried about your judgments of them and theirs. Most of us do this about something--explain because we are self-conscious about something--sooner or later, rarely or often in life.
Second, variety is the spice of life. I have a friend like this, yes, a true lily of the field--and everything goes well for her, the Universe truly does provide. We, on the other hand, plug along safe and steady, cross every t, dot every i, save and invest, cultivate frugal habits and living fully not large...and Murphy's Law always seems to kick in anyway. So, you never know.
Both lifestyle approaches can provide peace of mind and comfort, both can induce anxiety and stress. I say go with what makes you feel comfortable and support your friend in doing the same. Just recognize that this is an area in which the two of you won't really have common ground.
Great blessings on you and your new family member!
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