[takingtheplunge]

I'm really happy for me friend who is preg, but I can't help be taken back by her registry. I don't know if it's because we adopted and I am being unconsciously bitter.

When we got our DS as a newborn, friends rallied around us, and I registered and had a little shower and welcoming to show off our little one. Only a few shopped our registry b/c it was "all of a sudden" and I guess people were just busy. In fact, the majority of the gifts trailed in after the welcoming, which is fine. We got lots of clothes, gift cards and cash from parents. However, most of the "essentials" pack n play and stroller were bought by us during our 24 hour notice. Yikes. Since we were adopting, I knew things would be dif. but I didn't expect it to bug me until now. In fact, we've been pretty budget conscience. There is no need to charge things for her. Rather, we conserve where we can and started a $1000 college fund.

I was happy and greatful, and now my friend found out she is having a boy.
She is due in January, and she already registered.
1/2 of her registry is clothes (including a $35 newborn jacket it will probably wear for 2 weeks since we will only have one month of winter left)!
Then, she registered at Baby USA $$$$ and picked out expensive funiture, $200 stroller, $200 bedding and more.
Before i knew she was going to register, I shared with her how I bought a 2nd hand crib and got a handed down swing, and I told her how she can save money. She had said, "yah, that's great. I am all about saving money." Now, I see her registry is loaded with high-end everything. I know it's to each his own, but they don't even own a house yet, and she can't afford to take off more than 6 weeks of work after having the baby. She said she is going to make "payments" on the $1000 funiture and is going to ask for her $200+ bedding for x-mas and make it work.

So her is where I feel bad. I could care less if they go into debt and choose material things over a college fund or 12 weeks of family leave, but sometimes I feel like she's made comments, "well, it's our first baby and our family is so excited for us" which leaves me feeling weird b/c my girl is my first baby too! Then, I wonder if she judges me for being frugal because I adopted verses having one. Who knows. Then, I feel guilty, if I had her would I be spending more? Probably not. When we moved I saved $300 by buying a one-eyar old used refrig. That is the type of person I am. I like nice things too, but I also like money in the bank.

Does anyone else have an over-the-top friend, too?