[MilehighDad]

I'm sorry that you are going through such a rough time with so much uncertainty. I haven't been through your situation, but I have been through others and just want to offer up a weak explanation. And that is: "best interest of the child" in your case, as in many others, is just based on opinion, there is no proven evidence or obvious solution. And, worst of all, you don't get to make the decision. It would be much easier for you if the "best interest" was obvious and clear, then you could agree to it and support your foster kids. I think that is what you are looking for with this post, but I am afraid you won't find it.

I hope that the decision goes your way, your love for the children is clear. But if it doesn't, remember that what the kids will need is for you to help them accept and transition with as little pain as possible. That will be very hard when your heart tells you how wrong it is and how much you just want to take care of them.
Best wishes.