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Hey, I am glad to hear you are enjoying those littel ones...the messy house is just a validation that your priorities are where they should be...I think it takes about a YEAR to get things balanced out once a new person joins your family. I used to think it was just a new baby joining the family until this past year -- now after taking a full year to adjust to life with our 4 year old daughter I know it is anyone new no matter the age.
I haven't had any so close in age as your beautiful little girls but, We did have our 1st 2 children 15 months apart, then our 3rd was born and we had 3 children 3 yrs. old and under. Then we slowed the pace, had 2 more children by the time our oldest was 8 yrs. Now with our 2 dds from guatemala we have 4 children under 4 again. We have 2 that are 10 months apart. So they are the same age for a couple of months each year.(that is 7 total). Anyway, it seems to get easier as they get older and you get to know them better. But, boy is it intense parenting. Really fun and rewarding but, by the end of every day you are glad it's over. When people ask the "how..." question I always answer "ONE day at a time"---
A few things we did to help us through this past year(our 4-yr old dd came home with some "issues" to say the least that just about blew us out of the water--yes it WAS THAT bad!)
were to take small break from the kids (((ALONE))) and togther as husband and wife. Make sure our new daughters were in bed early(they seem to wear out much faster than our other 5. (I think they are adjusting as well and just get more tired!) Use that time for some valuable play time with the other kids ...and last but not least hired in some help with the house. I used their help just for the year (i'm done now)and the cleanliness without the pressure of getting it done made a huge difference for everyone in the family even the littlest ones would be thrilled after the cleaners came. If you can squeeze anything out of the budget I highly reccommend this, unless you have some really good family, friends or neighbors who are willing to pitch in around there with you for the next while. Enjoy getting to know those babies and letting them get to know you!!!! You will be surprised and relieved when you look back in a year and see how far you have come! They grow up SO fast and before you know it they will be in school.
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