Is there a way for you to separate your holding him from the food issue? I wonder if just taking food out of the equation while you are trying to hold him would help. I've never had to deal with a child with an eating disorder so I'm just guessing here.
You said you let him sit on your lap while on the computer. Even though it isn't rocking, it's still something. Maybe you could spend time with him each day at the computer playing a game with him. It might make the contact less threatening for a while while he adjusts to the new schedule.
I know it's very hard ot hold a child with love when they are fighting you so hard ALL the time. I just wonder if this is something you can do with him that will allow him closeness.
