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As an adoptee I use the term Bmom to mean biological mom and of course Amom for adoptive mom. The ONLy place I ever refer to Amom as Amom is here or on any other adoption boards and the only reason I do is for clarification purposes. To me if anything calling my mom "A"Mom is like punching me in the gut. To me Amom will ALWAYS be Momma without any prefix. SO many time I am tempted to type A#1 Mom when refering to Amom.
But thayt is only my feelings. Also, biomom is exactly what she is/was. Now if I had any type of relationship with bmom or had she been honest with me about who she was(she was present in life she just chose not to tell me she was bmom) it might be different, but how can I even refer to her as any kind of "mother" when the reality is there is alot more than just giving birth that earn a woman the title of "Mother".
Again, these are MY feelings on this as there was absoulutely nothing Bmom did short of giving birth to me that would cause me to honor her with anything more than Biomom as a title. I detest the term "first mom" because the first motherly love and care I ever recieved was in fact from my Amom. I also find the terms "natural or real" an insult and demeaning to any Amom. There was nothing ureal or unnatural about the love my Amom gave me.
EZ
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