[HappyHopefulMommy]

I can totally relate. We had a very similar thing happen. Almost 2 years ago we were matched with an emom. She was 15 weeks pregnant when she chose us. We did not tell our bio daugther (who was 6) until the emom actually went to the agency and told them her plan. Since we had 5 months we wanted her to be part of getting ready and she was SO excited to finally be a big sister. When emom gave birth, she chose to parent. When I got the phone call all I could think about was how ward it would be to tell Abby (our bio daugther). She cried really hard for like 10 minutes and was so mad. For about a year she would randomly tell me she was mad at the emom, she said she would be mad at her until we got kids. I swore I would never tell her again until it was for sure. We ended up switching to fost/adopt and 1 year and 3 months after that failed placement we were selected for a sib set of 3. TPR was done and appeal period was past and they had been out of birth home for 3 years. We got the phone call on a Wed. morning and we would be meeting them the next day. I was so excited, I ended up telling Abby before calling my DH at work. But if we were still doing infant domestic I have no idea what I would do. I think I would not tell her until baby was born. I just saw how hurt she was and could not do that to her again. And then I would be very careful what I said if TPR was not signed. And for our DD it probably would have been easier to hear "you are getting a brother/sister today" than to hear it will be in 2 months. That would be so exciting for her. Good luck and go with your heart.