[lucyjoy]

Just serve his food at meal time and snack time and when times up remove it and say NOTHING. Right now he knows this makes you crazy. As long as he knows that, his need for control won't let him see anything else. If he pukes, hand him cleaning supplies.

Spend at least 30 minutes a day in the rocking chair. Don't talk about food except in the concept of reframing. Sing to him, talk to him about how his life would have been if you'd have held him in your arms the day he was born and build from there.

Will he let you bottle feed him? I know he's too old for that but since he likes being young and cute, that might be a way to sneak some milk of juice in now and then.

Keep a journal of what he is served for meals and snacks, times etc and what he chooses to eat. When you get therapy in place or talk with doctors about feeding tubes or whatever, take the journal with you.

This won't be a quick fix, but a long process to trusting.