[chickymum]

I think the hard part here is that for so many control issues we somehow find a way to make the child feel in control. EG if a child does not want to get dressed in the morning it makes you mad. They have control until you let them go to school in PJ's. Then they have lost because they just wanted a fight that they did not get and they feel silly in their PJ's.

This issue is different because if you did take away the control battle part then he could become dangerously hurt before he realizes. Severly unattached children will die before they give in. Just like the child that will go all the way to school in PJ's before he realizes Mom is not bluffing.

Does this make any sense?