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Our son is 32 months. We got our baby August 10. Mom signed TPR 3 days later. Dad is an unknown and TPR won't be done until mid October.
We tell our son we are taking care of the baby. We don't use the words mom, dad, brother, sister. We've forewarned our family and friends. When I can, I tell others something like, "this is our friend. We're taking care of her."
We do this because we don't want him to think that brothers and sisters can just go away.
I've seen a lot of people tell young kids lots of details that I think are way premature. It's got to be really hard for the kids. My recommendation would be to say, at most, you've met a mom who is considering what she wants to do. IF baby comes home before TPR, tell your son you are caring for the baby while mom decides what to do.
DOn't overdo it.
Fussy baby, gotta go.
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