[lucyjoy]

The attachment disorder has to be treated first as that may very well be his food issue. 5 seems young for the type of food issue contest or whatever in Poland. Seems to me there may be a missing piece of truama there that he may not be able to tell you yet.

If he can eat breakfast at school, let them deal with that. If not, then he eats or he doesn't. If he can eat when he's not stressed then address the stress. He sits with the family at meals and when eating time is over, it's over. Should he want a snack later, in his situation, I'd give it.

Have you found an attachment therapist of is that what you are waiting to hear about? I know it's expensive but in the long run well worth it.

And I am sure it is very irritating for me to give you unasked for advice. I've seen a lot of odd things-had a respite kid who could hold her urine for 30 hours and did so to drive her doctor mother insane. There are things we can and cannot control-eating, elimination, and puking are 3.