[Chachi]

I'm looking for words of wisdom from others who have already been through this. When and how much do you tell your child about a new sibling they may be getting?

Here is my story... we are matched with an emom who is due at the end of October and I'm not sure if/when/how much to tell my 6 year old DS. The problem is that we were matched with a emom earlier this summer who ended up parenting. Before emom gave birth, DS knew all about the baby and told all his friends at school and was just so darn excited that he was finaly going to get to be a big brother - then the world came crashing down. To this day he stills asks where his baby sister is and when is she coming home. Since that failed situation, we have just kept telling him that he WILL get to be a big brother someday. Now that we are matched again, I just don't know if or when I should tell him. It's hard enough for me to deal with some of the disappointments and craziness of the adoption process and I don't want him to have to go through that. On the other hand, it's hard not to share the excitement.

So I guess I would like to hear your stories and how you handled it. How old were your older kids and how did they deal with everything?

for sharing!