[lucyjoy]

Why consequence the not eating? Not eating has it's own consequence-hunger. I know your concern is his need for food but adding consequences, in my opinion, just invites futher control battles.

What did the eating disorder clinic suggest you do?

It would seem to me that rather then having him sit for hours trying to eat, those hours might be better spent in a rocking chair with lots of empathy woking on the attachment and the reasons eating has become so hard for him.

The harder you try to force a child to do what they are determined not to do, the harder they will fight it. This is a battle you cannot win with force and a war you cannot afford to lose.