[Tazer]

How can you condemn a book that you have not read with an open mind?


I am not condemning the book (btw: I did read it years ago) I just don't feel it's the know it all book that some in other threads make it out to be. I think that had I read it prior to having my daughter in 1985 I would have really seriously hesitated about placing her. I am simply saying IMO it kinda reads like ALL or MOST adoptees will have these issues and pain in response to being placed that no Mom wants to think her child has. I never wanted my actions to scar her for goodness sake and I didn't want to think she might spend her life staring out of doors and windows longing for something (someone) I took her away from.

On the other hand my daughter, who BTW, didn't discover she was adopted until I sent a contact letter to her when she was 19 admits she never felt she belonged to her family and always felt "odd". I know there are some good points in the book but not all of it applies to everyone. Just my $.02...Tracy