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I don't know if I made it clear ... I am a fost/adopt parent.

It wasn't my idea that foster parents let me in their home. I didn't get the importance of it. This is how the cw explained it to me. I was told this will help with the bonding/attaching process. I just want to meet my new son. I guess I am a pushover because I would do it . I hate that my home is open to all these people too but I thought it was part of the job. I got over after 18 month of weekly visits. lol BTW my office refers to me as an employee. ??? I just wish the foster mother refused and stood her ground then we would have meet at the park or daycare. She is sitting on the fence about it. She is allowing this visit but wants to see how it goes before committing to any more. Then if she doesn't we haven't set up a visiting schedule outside the home or inside her home. We have just one visit planned. Its been a huge delay. If I felt like I don't want "me" in my home, I would say NO Way. I would let them know how I can make the visits take place. I totally get the privacy issue. My issue is ... It is standing in the way of the bonding process or even me meeting the child. Imagine ....If I were a relative.. I was approved to adopt these children in early July, now its September. Court is this week and I can't even say I meet one of the children. I think I would be very anxious to how this would look to the judge. Will the cw let the judge know I was trying or would they look at the fact. I moved the "baby in but the older child is still foster care. I am working through this ... I am just trying to see how relatives may be at disadvantage when trying to get their children out of fostercare. . If I as an adoptive parent (nonrelative) can't even meet the child for almost two months after being approved. If this was my relative, I would be extremely frustrated. Its not like it would be a failed placement. It would mean more to me to have my relative in my home as soon as possible. Please understand and not flame me.

I live in the same State as the foster mother.

I will have the child in my home because the plan is adoption and the foster mother doesn't want to adopt the child. It is just a matter of time.

Thanks again for the conversation.

I value all of your points of views. Thanks!