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Originally Posted by sunsetsky
I thought if a family member wanted to go to a foster home, it would be part of being a foster parent. Now, I know different. How often does this happen? I have been tested by this situation. I almost felt like giving up.
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Sunsetsky,
I think you have to understand first that we foster parents are volunteers, not employees. And these are our homes, not public facilities.
We are asked to have strangers in and out of our homes on a constant basis. Homestudy workers, licensing workers, retention workers, caseworkers, GALs, CASAs, therapists.....it goes on and on. After a while, it feels really intrusive. I once had a lawyer demand to see my fkid "in the home." I pointed out that it wasn't "THE home," it was MY home, and while he was welcome as a guest, it wasn't a public facility.
Can you imagine having people trooping in and out of your house, including the private places like bedrooms and bathrooms, on a regular basis?
So yeah. I avoid whichever extra intrusions I can. I might have relatives or bfamily in my house after I've gotten to know them, but I'd sure like the option of inviting people to my home instead of having them assume they can come whenever they want because it's "part of being a foster parent."