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Not every B-mom will fail to bond with others until she connects with what she lost through adoption nor do all of us feel that our adoption was a big devastating loss, blah blah blah.
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Tell me about it! Practically everything I read about bmoms talks about how psychologically damaged we are from our experience, and paints such a depressing picture of our emotional health. Not to deny that their is sorrow, grief, or pain, but jeez, so much of what is written, I really cannot relate to at all.
I feel the same about Primal Wound theory. Though some adoptees may relate to it, and the theory resonates with them, I find that it is not a "one-size fits all" idea, and wouldn't automatically assume all adoptees are going to be "wounded" in such a way just because someone wrote a book about it and says it is true. It is only a theory, not a given.