I am a reunited B-mom who placed my now 22 year old daughter at birth in a closed adoption. In an attempt to learn everything I could about her and myself I bought and read this book. Having met her and engaged in many discussions I am amazed at how dead-on the writer is in some of the feelings she describes that my daughter seems to have. On the other hand I am just as amazed at how off-base she is with many other statements. There are many issues that I as a B-mom never experienced, and stuff my daughter never felt, thought or imagined.
IMO, if you read the book read it with an open mind realizing that not every thing written applies to every adoptive situation. Not every adoptee feels damaged. Not every B-mom will fail to bond with others until she connects with what she lost through adoption nor do all of us feel that our adoption was a big devastating loss, blah blah blah. Treat the book like free samples at the mall...( which BTW I had several of today in the food court while buying a bridal shower gift,
) take what you like and pass up the rest. This book is NOT the bible or even the "bible of adoption!" Just my $0.2 worth...Tracy