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Originally Posted by tsang1983

so in saying all this when u adopt a child from overseas think of the consequences it will have on the child

What about the consequences of not being adopted? Most children available for international adoption are in orphanages. They are not being removed from homes. I will never advocate a child being placed in an abusive home. However, if my child (adopted internationally) was not in my home and if international adoption did not exist she would be raised in an orphanage with thousands of other kids and overworked and overwhelmed staff. She would remain there until she "ages out" of the system, which in some countries is as young as 13. And then she would be placed on the street to fend for herself. Maybe she would be resourceful enough to find a trade to support herself. Or maybe she was beg, live on the street, become a prostitute, or any other thing that seems unbareable to me. I adopted internationally. I adopted transracially. And while everything we do in life has consequences, I hope that she will one day understand all the love I give to her and all the dreams I have for her.

Samantha