Wonderingkatie, Hello, I am a firstmom(bmom)and I relinquished my twin sons, whom are 22 now. I have no info on them including where they might be. In my case , I wonder if males your age are as willing to want contact with their first mom? I have recently hired a C.I. to help me locate them. I have to write them a letter so, in the case they do not want contact, they will at least have my letter. I would like think the reason you feel like your are "outside looking in", is because you have the need to KNOW who you are,JMO. If I may, would you mind telling me what you might like in a letter from your first mom....if you can't I understand. This letter I have to write can not contain any identifing info. So to me this will only come accross as "cold"...what do you think, you are just a year older than my twin sons. Every person NEEDS to know where they came from and who they are...it is that bond between mother and child..it will never go away...what you do with that bond after reuniting is another story. Are your parents helpful in helping you with reunion? what is your relationship with them? Just curious...you need not answer any of these issues, but would appreciate knowing more from an adoptee, that are close in age to my sons. I wish you inner peace and a happy journey...
