Hi I read your post and I know exactly how you feel but on the opposit end of the picture. You see I was adopted at the age of 14 and I had problems attaching to my A-mom as well. We were always fighting and I would go to my dad for help. I can honestly say that it's very sad to hear that you don't think you don't love him as much as your other kids. Sometimes we spend too much time thinking about our bio children vs our adoptive children when really they are all your children. Just because they are adopted doesn't mean they aren't your child. Life is hard and it's only going to get worst before it starts to get better. Just believe that in time your son will be fine and get more adjusted to you. Don't give up.