[SchmennaLeigh]

The Munchkin's Mom messaged me the other night. She's a member of a MOMS club. They were having a dinner the other night. The topic of discussion was how long it took to conceived their children.

When it was D's turn, she said, simply, how long they tried to conceive and then that they adopted Munchkin and later used IVF when it came time for JD. Another Mom then looked at her phone, said "I gotta go, " and left. Later D found out that the disappearing Mom had placed her firstborn for adoption.

D isn't sure what to do about this situation. Placing myself in the shoes of the other birth mother, I probably would have freaked as well, assuming that D was going to be like the majority of adoptive parents I have run into in my small area (meaning that she doesn't have an open adoption or respectful relationship with her child's first family). However, D's concern about approaching her to discuss the topic is that she doesn't want to get the Mom in trouble that told her that the Other Birth Mom is a birth mother.

So, how would you advise D to handle this? Have you experienced something like this as a birth mother or an adoptive mother?

She needs answers by Friday! Hit me!