[HappyHopefulMommy]

Thanks guys - it is such a struggle some days. We do remward for going to school good, I do and his teacher does. We actually reward alot and that helps - sometimes. We do privilege related "consequences" most of the time. And a lot of the time I ignore stuff that does not really matter. But we never ignore name calling, hitting and/or kicking. J loves to help and would love if I let him help me in the kitchen. But, the other kids would all be jeaous of that and they all want to help. I know it is good for attachment, but we have a tiny kitchen."J" wants the attention so he will do anything for it. If he is screaming and crying he is sent to his room, because no one else should have to listen that that for an hour. I can see how writing could lead to not liking to write - it was just a spur of the moment consequence. I am constantly coming up with those pretty quickly. And - ya we get the meltdowns over being asked to wash hands and coming to dinner, I know it will get better.