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I wouldn't adopt a child older than 2 and would not break the birth order. You should keep Ty the oldest. I listened to DH in one of our foster placements and took a 4 year old. DD and that little girl were jockeying for the Queen B spot. It was so much chaos that we ended up having her moved. She was the only child we ever had moved and I feel awful about it. Lesson learned is to never listen to DH. As long as any new children were the same age or younger than my two everything was fine. Save yourself the drama and keep Ty the oldest. You won't believe the things a 3 or 4 year old has seen. I am not discouraging older child adoption... I just think you have to put more thought into your kids you already have at home and put them in a leader/role model position. You wouldn't want an older child influencing his behavior.
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