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Veggiegirl,
I completely understand your thinking and position. I have to tell ya, dh and I fully believe that it's important in our family to have more than one child of one ethnicity.
When we adopted our first while living overseas, we knew that the next child needed to be Asian too. The agency was very surprised at our stand, but we didn't want it any other way.
When we went about to adopt privately again, our next baby was AA. All succeeding babies have been AA; we'd like another AA baby; and we *would* consider a multi-ethnic baby (AA/any other ethnicity) but we'll take no CC babies. (And have had the chance to do so, BTW.)
Here's my philosophy too.......as mommmy stated, there are couples waiting for (usually) long periods of time. Why would dh and I accept a CC baby, when that's not what we feel led/want to do? I know there are others who don't share that feeling, and that's fine for their family; but this is right for us.
Each person/couple has their piece of the puzzle to complete, fill in. While one family feels led to adopt an AA baby, another feels better to parent a CC baby; one desires very special needs, another doesn't; while yet another feels led to adopt only domestic, another international, and so on.
Each of us has that part to fulfill, and should do so according to their heart, their existing family needs/desires.
Okay...jumping off of the soapbox here....but I'll add----I think wanting only another AA baby, is a good way to go.
Sincerely,
Linny
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