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We are still adjusting to ours ... we have a 21 month old daughter and a 5 month old son - sib set, who were placed with us about a month and a half ago. Our daughter has done fairly well - she seems to be bonding to us ok, though it has been frustrating for her at times because she's very opinionated and strong willed but not very verbal, which, because we haven't had her the whole time causes some communication difficulties.

I actually can deal a lot better with her and my DH does better with our son. I know it's ok to let K scream and tantrum because I know it's not one of her basic needs not being met when she's tantrumming - she's just being stubborn most of the time, whereas with J, I don't know what in the heck he wants when he's crying!

I do have to say that it is difficult with a toddler and a baby because whenever you're showing J attention (the baby), K wants what he has (toy, attention, etc.) NOW. And she does love J a lot. She tries to "help", which often ends up being less helpful ... she'll give us J's pacifier / burp cloth / etc. even though we don't need it, and trip over / almost step on J in the process.