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It's stressful for the kids, no matter who they visit.
Our fs had tons of issues right after placement. We had out of control behavior after visits--he thought he was going home and didn't like it one bit that he didn't. Then we had no visits for 6 months and he got used to living with us full time. Now visits have restarted and he cried when we left, but did pretty well otherwise.
For him, and to a lesser extent his little sister, the visits bring up all of his conflicted or hidden feelings. He has trouble feeling and identifying his emotions. He loves his family, but he was hurt there. Very confusing.
Withay is right. Document it all and send it to the cws. They add it to the file and lets them know how it's going. For our kids, the visits are closely supervised, partly because of the stuff that came out after the visits.
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