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If it makes you feel any better, I've been waiting since last March as well for a picture of my bmom.
I found out the identity of my bparents last Oct. My bmom passed away many years ago, and I have talked on the phone twice with her first daughter (my older half-sister). Last March she told me she would send a picture of her/my mother; I never received anything, so in July I mailed her a short note asking if she had a chance to look for a picture yet. Like you, I get annoyed with people who don't keep their word. Sometimes I wonder if she changed her mind after talking to me.
In my case, I am not welcome in her family. She merely called me to tell me some facts about my bmom. I am to remain the "family secret".
So in many ways, you are very lucky that your bmom is communicating with you regularly. And it's so wonderful that she is happy that you have been found. I know it's hard, but you should continue to be patient and not ask her for pictures (like previous posters have suggested, maybe she is ashamed of how she looks). It sounds like she is still working through her own issues, so for now, I think you should just keep up with the friendly emails -- eventually you will meet and get the answers to all your questions.
I know waiting is hard, but you don't want to scare her away by appearing too anxious.
If you can't find a therapist, maybe you could find a support group. When I get in a "funk", sometimes I read a segment of an inspirational book. Good luck.
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