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There is a little talk on the boards about several who are or have adopted older children. We are working through foster care of our next adoption. I would like to consider an older/younger sibling group (one older than Ty, one younger...esp. if the younger one was male and the older female) but Dh would really like to adopt just one at a time, and is concerned about what the bonding would be like for a say 2 or 3 year old to us (same man that was concerned about bonding to an adopted child if we're all being honest) I think he also has a fear and a real protective instinct of Tyler (not that I don't, but his is amazing) where he doesn't want Ty to end up being the only child, or sort of shoved outta the way because other children need more care or attention. I think he's would be pretty content to sit on our duffs and just have Ty (actually he has made a lot of comments about wanting a big family too). He has a couple times said...well what to the girls on line (you guys...though I've told him there are guys here too) think/do etc. So here I am. Asking before he can ask. Can you all share with me the ins and outs of a toddler adoption. Linny, I know you aren't a fan, and I would love to hear you share more. Those that think it's great or not great, I'd like to hear it all.

Thanks!