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Thank you for all the responses. Crick - it seems like you adopted your DC at the same ages as mine - or very close. Did you even consider additional placements after them, or did your family just feel complete at that point?
It makes sense that life will get more difficult as they get older with more activities, etc. My kiddos love to do things together, so I'm hoping they would like to play on the same teams whenever possible. They do much better than my brother and I did at playing together, and keep asking when they get more brothers or sisters. They talk often about foster sibs they lived with before, and we do visit the one foster family about once a month. Maybe I've got my blinders on, but my 2 oldest really seem to understand the difference between our home and their previous living situations. My 2 youngest are still struggling with the difference between us and the previous home (Where both lived mostly their whole lives). But it helps I think to have FM and I talk with them alot about it.
DH and I love the chaos, and really do want a larger family. Overall, we do feel like we're settling well, even though we are still dealing with therapy for attachment issues for 2 of our kiddos. It's way smoother than I thought it would be at this point - I can't even remember life without them.
We do get fights for DH and my attention, but it's gotten a lot better in the last month. We don't really have fighting over who sits where - we have assigned carseats in the car and seats at the table (well at least booster vs non-booster). I'm a very organized person, so I have schedules planned out in advance, and the kids love that structure.
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