I have a question for those of you that are reunited with your children..... Have you told them how you have spent their birthdays in past years without them? Have they asked or have you just told them....those who have told? The reason I ask these questions is... I have been reunited 2 1/2 years with my birth parents. My first birthday after our initial contact was about 6 weeks. My birthmother sent me a bday card which arrived on my birthday. I was so excited I could hardly contain myself. Then the next year (2nd bday with them) she called me at the time of my birth and we talked for nearly an hour. They had also sent a beautiful flower arrangement. She hadnt remembered the time of my birth until I had given her a copy of my OBC a few months before. Then last year (3rd bday with them) she didnt call me. They were on an extended vacation for the winter. So feeling upset and wanting to talk with her I called her. She didnt seem surprised I called but when she gave the phone to my birthfather for me to talk with him she said to him... Its Tracy and its her bday. I have not talked about how I felt that day but it makes me wonder what is in store for further bdays. I have also let them know how much I would like to be with them on my bday but that hasnt come up again either. She has told me numerous times that she has always thought of me and I have no doubt about that but I often wonder what my bdays were like for her ......for them knowing they have been together since I was 6 years old. I want to say more.....to know more but dont want to push the issue if it would be out of line for me to do that. Any thoughts or suggestions on how I can get through the wondering and concern for their well being with this?
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