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momto1, I can pretty much guess which site you are referring to. I visit the chat portion of this site frequently, and although I am an adoptive mom I have gotten to know some adoptees and birthmoms very well over the last 4 1/2 years. Most of the adoptees and birthmoms I have met do not feel the animosity and hatred reflected by the site you visited.
I have never visited any adoption site other than this one myself, but have heard other sites discussed frequently. I choose not to visit any site that dwells on the negativity, and instead stick with this site. In the general chat I find that most visitors are looking for ways to foster understanding between the three parts of the triad. I believe that getting to know both adult adoptees and birth mothers makes me a better adoptive parent. We have adopted twice through the foster system. Our daughter's adoption is completely open. We signed an open adoption agreement with our son's birth mother, but she has since disappearred.
For a more well rounded view of adoptees and birthmoms, I suggest you visit the general chat room of this site on any given evening.
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J, bio son: born Feb '96
T, adopted daughter: born July '96, adoption finalized Dec '06
E adopted son: born Sept '99, adopted November '05
Jeremiah 29:11 For I know the plans I have for you, declares the Lord, plans to prosper you and not to hharm you, plans to give you hope and a future.
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