[JustCourtney]

Not to go into too many specifics (this is a public forum), but our son's first mom chose not to name his bio father. We live in a putative registry state. I can tell you that he did know of the pregnancy and that there were very good reasons to not name him.

I am so torn over the whole situation. As a woman and now as a mother I can totally see why she made her decision and the instinct to protect her child that drove her to do so. I do.

However, as an amom I do wonder how we will explain her choice to our son over the years. I know that there will be many questions and inquiries at every stage of development, and I have to say that I am not looking forward to it. She is and hopefully will be a part of all of our lives, and she will be able to directly answer some of the questions, but I know it will be hard for all of us, and most of all for our son. How do you begin to explain to your beloved son that while he has 2 moms, but he only has 1 dad?

This is one of those things breaks my heart when I stare into his sweet sleeping face and imagine all the heartache and loss that he will have to go through in this life - the school bully, the death of a loved one, his first broken heart, and never knowing his bdad. sigh. I just wish he could be spared this.