[aclee]

Originally Posted by SupaModel

Aclee, I totally get what your saying (you meant full AA right?) but BR is same as AA to me. In the AA community not matter what you are mixed with you are still consider black. Well actually not just only AA communities either.

I know YOU get it Supa However if we got a BR child and he/she was a very light skinned child that is seen as different than my dark chocolate espresso baby here by most of society. Are there any guarantees the next baby will be "as dark" no, but if he is full AA, Tyler will have someone else that at least doesn't have that 50% free pass to ignore they are also 50% AA, again, full AA is only our ideal. Course nothing about any of this is ideal. I'm be adopting from foster care. I would consider Hispanic and other minority children as well. In the long run, with many children (in my dreams!) I think that if you can at least have one other child in the house that is the same minority, it does help. No one is odd man out, or is completely different than everyone else. That of course makes me sound like I"m starting Noah's arc here or something, breaking the children into pairs.

I'm sure I over think this a lot, but I have to. I face enough challenges as a trans-racial mommy without others looking at my family thinking, gosh look at the poor AA boy, their other son/daughter is so much lighter. The fewer rampages I can take on, the better.

I know that many in the AA community still consider the one drop rule law, but many in the CC community don't. BR is still preferred over full AA, and a BR child would be shown preference by many. Heck look at the financials for adoption. The agency that brought us Tyler has a posting for a bi (maybe tri) racial male infant with drug and alcohol exposure due to be born. Right under that is listed an AA male due to be born. The AA male is 5K less. No bmom expenses etc, these are flat rates. Yes, I keep tabs on their despicable agency. Love my son though!