[MominPA]

I think you and your husband need to sit down and discuss this when it is a good time for both of you.

I know my husband wasn't 100% on board the second time around since he was worried about traveling again. He is not a good traveler. He was fine with the process since he trusts our agency, but him actually flying for 10 hours and being driven from place to place isn't his cup of tea. However, once he got into the mode everything was fine. Honestly, if I waited for my husband, I would still be waitiing.

I just wouldn't take no as an answer, but find out why he is saying no. From what I remember you didn't have the easiest time the first time around and that could be one of his fears.

Also you need to put your feelings out there. How would you feel if you didn't get another child? Would you resent your husband? I don't think it is fair that one spouse has the say in what will happen for both. I am not saying your husband or you are like that since I don't know yous, but I am just saying that in general. Marriage is compromise. Yes, I did push my husband, but he wasn't against it. It just takes him a while to accept change. Myself, if I get a call saying you have a job across the country that is a great opportunity I would jump on it. My husband would be sick to his stomach.

Yesterday we pulling our hair out with our kids and there was no way I would have considered another child. Today, the house is quite since it is the first day of school. My husband says maybe we should adopt again since he is being sentimental since our youngest started kindergarten. If it wasn't for the money I would have been on the phone before he could take back what he said.