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I think that your children are still too young and vulnerable to bring older foster kids into your home.
It is so sad to say that ---I wish I did not know some of the things I learned which make me say that.
My next door neighbor used to be an 'emergency' foster-er. Her kids were grown, her husband was retired police officer, and she was a retired teacher.
She would get last minute , or ' temporary' placements, kids who were in a difficult situation, because they were coming in or out of a foster home/ group home
or their old home. She would help 'transition' them,
and give them a loving home while the state worked out red tape etc. Sometimes she would get kids dropped off in the middle of the night. She was amazing lady and she taught me so much when our kids were little.
Anyway, I met some adorable and wonderful children that moved through her home. But I also heard some gut wrenching stories. Most of the kids were victims of physical or sexual abuse at some point. Some were victimized so often it is unthinkable. But sadly, it often teaches them to do the same. And these poor kids, often quiet, seemingly loving and kind, SOMETIMES act out what they have experienced at the hands of monsters, on the weak and vulnerable younger kids. It is not really their fault, but it is a dangerous situation sometimes.
This couple was accused of SA a few times by teen girls, and each time, they forgave the girls, because they were not really in their right minds because of all they have been through.
Now, these kids my neighbor fostered were some the most difficult placements, so I may be overreacting.
I would just keep my eyes and ears wide open while I researched the possibilities.
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